Paths to Bliss Blog » relationships http://www.pathstobliss.com/blog A case study in Bliss Thu, 01 Jul 2010 20:56:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 2 Good Companions on the Path to Bliss http://www.pathstobliss.com/blog/good-companions-on-the-path/ http://www.pathstobliss.com/blog/good-companions-on-the-path/#comments Mon, 16 Nov 2009 10:00:33 +0000 Daniel Coates http://www.pathstobliss.com/blog/?p=32 In my free Ebook I talk about how the path to bliss is to do more of the things that bring you health and bliss and eliminate the things that drain your life energy and health.  In an earlier blog I evolved that thought a little and said that instead of eliminating “drains” it is better to create the opposite habit that represents a gain.

I for example I am in the process of stopping overeating because I know how much better I feel when I eat light.  So for a few days I tried to stop overeating and it didn’t work.  Then I decided that I would create a new habit of “Conscious eating” eating slow, taking breaks, chewing my food etc.  It is working, I am doing it.  By creating this new habit, the old habit just falls away.  “Conscious eating” and “Overeating” just can’t exist in the same space.

In building new habits that build your life energy and health there are two companions that are like gold.  Number 1 is a partner or friend to remind you of your new habit when you forget.  Number 2 is the Humility to accept the reminder.

My wife Rosarmy and I have been together for over 3 years now.  Rosarmy is a very disciplined person with very good eating habits and habits in general.  She is absolutely delightful to be married to.  For a while now she has been trying to help me eat consciously, reminding me to chew well and enjoy my food.  For a long time I resisted the advice.  I would say things like “Just coz I’m eating fast doesn’t mean I am not enjoying it” or “I have an excellent digestive system, it can take it!”.  At times I was even openly hostile and possibly even told her to “shut up and mind your own business”.

Then I started this blog to track my own path to bliss and indentified “Conscious Eating” as one of the habits I wanted to form.  I was humbled to realise that what I now REALLY wanted my wife was trying to help me with a looong time ago.

So now my wife says “Hey love, enjoy your food, chew well” and I say “Thanks for reminding me”.  There is no resistance any more so now I can build a habit of conscious eating.

I think sometimes we just have to listen to others more.  Especially those close to us.  Especially our wives, boys!! Women are powerful, sensible and intuitive and know whats good for us most of the time.  Especially if the relatioship is loving.

Humility is the key, If we can just see that most of the time (constructive) criticism is really a signpost leading us back to our path to bliss we can be grateful and say “Thankyou” rather than getting into resistance with the other person that just keeps us stuck.

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